They had experienced the unique pleasure of giving pleasure in such an intimate way to each other. He was writing to me because this enjoyable aspect of their sex life which had always been part of their marriage was now conflicting with his conscience. My first instinct was to reply that it sounds like his pastor has a boring sex life and is trying to justify it Biblically! God made sex.
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Can a married couple have oral sex? Is it a sin to have oral sex? Is oral sex permissible according to the Bible? As a biblical counselor who often talks with couples who are preparing for marriage, have just been married, or are struggling in marriage, oral sex is a common topic. Similar to anal sex, Christians over time have handled this issue in various ways.
So, Oral Sex Is Okay?
While the Bible doesn't mention oral sex, many still have questions about whether or not it's considered sinful, if it's "safe" to do it before marriage, or if husbands and wives can engage in oral sex within their marriage. Some believe that oral sex "cunnilingus" when performed on females and "fellatio" when performed on males is an ungodly sexual perversion and is never OK in any context. Some hold the opinion that oral sex doesn't "count" as premarital sex because it's not actual sexual intercourse. But let's take a look at some biblical principles to help us unwind this tangle of misunderstandings. Oral sex may be safer than sexual intercourse as far as preventing an unwanted pregnancy. But the idea that a person is safe from all sexually transmitted infections STIs during oral sex is a myth. The act of oral sex can still pass on an infection or disease if it's present in you or your partner. You may have heard that oral sex isn't really sex and therefore doesn't "count" as a sexual sin. But Ephesians tells us, " Hebrews tells us to keep the marriage bed pure and undefiled—that is, we need to save our sexual acts for AFTER marriage.
Couples often ask, "Is oral sex a sin? Hebrews says, "Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. Non-married couples are not to practice premarital sex. The Bible never indicates exactly what a husband and wife are allowed to do in their sexual relationship. However, there are some sexual principles that we can consider. Mutual Consent - 1 Corinthians says, "Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. Adultery is Sin - The Bible is very clear that any form of adultery is sin, even if both people in a marriage relationship agree to it. Viewing Pornography is a Sin - Matthew is very clear.